4 Lies People Believe About The Mental Health Community

It’s not a surprise that there is a stigma against mental health, but it shouldn’t be a battle that mental health patients should have to face.

I’ve battled with depression in my past, and not but a year later after I was diagnosed with a rare disease, I suffer from anxiety. Lots of things have probably attributed to my mental health like emotional abuse, my ex-relationship, toxic family, and things that have been hard for me to overcome.

I, along with millions of others in the mental health community are tired. We’re tired of the bias, the lies that people believe about our mental illness, and the endless reasons we must make up for missing work or a gathering because most people won’t take our mental health seriously.

I believe that in shedding some light on those lies below, it will help de-stigmatize mental illness and open us up for more unashamed conversation.

1. If we share our reality, we are in some way seeking attention.

Whoever has said that someone is seeking attention because they’re struggling mentally lacks a string of empathy—empathy that could mean a matter of life or death for someone. Our reality is real—and our feelings are valid.

Any kind of attention we’re seeking is because we’re seeking help. And we certainly do not have to struggle in silence. We know that just because no one else can heal or do our inner work for us, it doesn’t mean we have to do it alone—therefore we vulnerably share what we’re going through.

2. When we make some improvement, we were faking our mental struggle all along.

Don’t forget that at one point, our only relief was sleep. Our struggle was real, is real, and faking a mental illness is of no benefit to us or anyone else’s life. Making improvements in our mental illness is beautiful progress, and it is not to be misinterpreted as faking a mental illness. Some of us have fought for our lives while battling our inner demons. Some of us, like myself, had suicidal thoughts in our darkest hour and have self-harmed multiple times. So when we make an improvement, we’ve realized our life is worth living and you can’t fake that kind of reality. These things are as real as anything else in the world and the progress matters to us. Every time you think someone is faking their mental illness, you’re a part of the problem, not the solution.

3. If we stay in our depression, anxiety, or other mental health issue, we’re not trying hard enough.

No one wants to suffer from a mental illness, but it’s okay to make mistakes. It’s okay to have bad days and be less than perfect. It’s okay to do what’s best for our mental health even when that looks like we’re not trying to others. Everyone’s effort looks different. For some, it’s going outside and feeling the sunburn their face and for others, it’s getting out of bed for the first time in a week and drinking a cup of coffee.

And for some, it’s merely an effort to stay alive.

We’re trying. Trying is not giving up—and that’s all that matters.

4. If we keep the struggle to ourselves, then we’re not really suffering.

Just because we keep our feelings to ourselves, doesn’t mean we wish to heal alone in our mental illness. It’s not an easy thing to open up about what we’re going through because we feel we’ll be rejected.

Mental illness is not easily seen. We don’t have a runny nose, fever, or a rash where someone will easily run to us with a warm towel or Tylenol. We long to be able to express something we can’t explain, and we ache for help.

People with a mental illness know what it means to feel alone no matter how much support we may actually have. We struggle with accepting help from those that love us because we don’t want to be a burden.

Mental health will always matter. Whether it affects your brain, your arm, or your heart, it’s still an illness that needs to be addressed with just as much care.

Everyone is going through something and everybody has had something they’ve had to overcome.

There is hope, even when our minds tell us there isn’t. The fact that we’re still making it to work, caring for our families, being there for our friends, while still battling inexpressible pain is strength, not a weakness.

People will believe what they want to believe about the mentally ill—no one can really change that.

But we can let people know how truly precious they are. We can be a part of the change for good and give people a reason to have hope again.

Because hope should never be lost.

The Feminine Power

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What I think many women today believe they can do is change men. While change can be good for many reasons and for different circumstances, it is not our duty as women to change them. Only God can do that. Before you continue, I am not saying that every man lusts over a woman once he see’s her. There is such a thing as self-control.

We as women (sisters in Christ) have the privilege of being ladies. We should help our men who are first our brothers in Christ and uplift instead of tear down( and you can tear down by posting a seductive photo of your body on the internet!). Any man could falter by taking just a glance at it because then he could lust over you, over every inch of your body that you posted. And not just photos that you post, but when you go out– anywhere. Just the other day I saw a woman walking around with a half cut shirt revealing her stomach and 80% of her cleavage and shorts cut off right below her bottom area. She may think she’s going out and having the good care free life, but what she doesn’t realize is that she may have had hundreds of men lusting over her body.

“But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart” (Matthew 5: 27-28).

I think that as women we can help our men by the way we dress, speak and uplift them. Have some faith in them. And be careful with how much of yourself you reveal. As women in Christ we should be doing everything we can to help our brothers in Christ stand tall as Warriors for God and not fall. One of the things I’ve struggled with as a woman has been having faith in our men of this generation (not just for what I’ve been through personally but in general) and not giving them enough props to the good that they do and are. God has worked on me. In all honesty, how would your future husband feel with how much of yourself you’ve (flaunted) for men that have lustful eyes and were not him? Brothers, remember before you lust over the woman in the grocery shop that she is first your sister in Christ. And visa verse as well. Women do it too; men are first your brothers in Christ– know that before you lust after them as well. Knowing this can help us not lust at all.

“So we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another” (Romans 12:5). We can glorify God through many ways. One of them I believe is throwing down the seductive blouse and wearing that normal T so that you can help a brother in Christ!